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This question was answered on September 6, 2005.
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The best way to describe virtual memory is a second RAM chip on your hard drive. When a program or file is currently in use it sits in RAM for instant access to the CPU. However if a file is too large for your RAM to handle, the operating system (in your case Windows) uses a section of your hard drive as RAM. It's not an actual RAM chip but it acts like one which is why it's virtual or imaginary.
As for enlarging virtual memory, I would advise against it as changing your memory addresses can seriously damage your system.
Instead I would try zipping your movie file. There is a program called WinZip that you can download just about anywhere for free on the Net. WinZip can compress files to smaller sizes for easier storage and transfer. With WinZip you can compress your movie file, and then e-mail it, and then your mother can unzip the file using Windows or WinZip.
If you have any questions about WinZip or zipping a file, please ask.